The first year of our marriage was marked by our honeymoon, and resulting pregnancy. I had a fainting problem and spent most of the pregnancy off work. Makenna was born one month after our first anniversary.
|1 month to the day before Makenna was born|
We bought our first house, the one on Park Street, in the third year of our marriage and I started the job I still have.
|January 18 2008|
I have heard that the toddler and teenage years are hard on marriages. We came out of the toddler years a bit worse for wear, a bit sleep deprived, but otherwise okay. The beginning of Jack's life did test our marriage of 5-6 years and our committment to one another...but we got through it and those who know him now don't believe it when we say he gave us a run for our money.
|June 6 2009|
Just as things started to somewhat settle down, it was a couple weeks after we celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary when a tornado literally plowed right through our lives.
|Our house being demolished. November 2011.|
This past year, our marriage of 8 years was tested again, this time on a much more public stage.
From Day 1, August 21, I knew that he was doing what he needed to do, that he would always do what he needed to do, and that nothing on this Earth was more important to him than his family. In this past year of our marriage I saw sides of him I rarely saw, on a regular basis. I saw him grow and change and stand up for what he believes in. I was there as he learned some hard, painful lessons throughout this year, as he struggled and as he grew more confident, and I knew that at the end of every single day, we were on the same side. We were a team, a unit.
I learned, right from Day 1, that I could not do this without him. That he truly is my other half. That when I struggled, he would fake his way through making me believe everything was going to turn out okay. That when I couldn't do it anymore, he could. That when I was gripped by anxiety and fear, he could convince me to keep going. That while he needed me to get things done, I also needed him to get other things done. And that we could rely on eachother's strengths and compensate for eachother's weaknesses. I learned that when his wife or his family was attacked, he would stand up and defend. That we truly do compliment eachother. Where I was weak, he was strong.
And vice versa.
I learned how patient we both could be with eachother.
I already knew all of this from our previous years together, but this year what I learned, is that when crisis, real crisis, falls upon our family, if we stick together, are honest with eachother and give our marriage the attention it needs, it will stay strong.
Our marriage was tested, our commitment to our marriage was tested, all four of us struggled as we soldiered through this ninth year.
Never before in a one week period did we come so close to losing him, really truly losing him, more than once. He willingly entered buildings threatening to crumble, he was stationed in neighbourhoods with multiple natural gas leaks long after the rest of us were evacuated and he was in a very terse situation for over 8 hours down at Sifto. Any of these situations could have turned catastophic at any moment. Anything, anything could have happened on so many different occasions that week.
It puts things into perspective. Changes in your mind what "really matters". Makes you think about where your life is going and how you want to live it.
I thank God my husband didn't.
This past year, more than any other, has shown me how much I need him, how much I depend on him and how much I love him, for all that he is and for how far he has come. And above all else, I don't just "need" him to be there, I want him to be there.
I believe my marriage was solidified over the past year and for that, I am both proud and grateful.
|August 2 2003|
Here we are, about to start our tenth year together, the two of us not the same people they were in that church on that day, with still so much to face and figure out as the years go on. I don't know what's to come, I don't want to know, I can only hope that we can continue to handle it, together.
"To the world you may be one person...but to one person you may be the world"
|Sept 10 2011|
"Always, Forever, and No Matter What".